To say something nice about themselves, this is the hardest thing in the world for people to do.

After sex, men fear too much intimacy; they want to separate again. Women want to talk, to continue the merging, melting fusion into one. Postcoital conversations keep the woman's power alive. Through unconscious severance, by falling asleep, the man regains his self.

Oh, I know all about my mother and me,' you may say. 'All that business with my mother was over years ago.' You don't and it wasn't.

No man can be really free in bed with a woman who is not.

The older I get...the more of my mother I see in myself.

In a baby's first months, the earliest patterns of intimacy or distrust are forever grooved into his soul.

Inside every adult male is a denied little boy.