In a baby's first months, the earliest patterns of intimacy or distrust are forever grooved into his soul.

No man can be really free in bed with a woman who is not.

For instance, in group therapy, I'll have people stand up, show off, give a speech about themselves as though they've just died and have to give a eulogy. Even with this explicit permission - even an order - to say something nice about themselves, this is the hardest thing in the world for people to do. They'd rather take their clothes off.

I think biologically we are attracted to more than one person, but given society and our needs, monogamy works better.

Spontaneous love admits errors, hesitations and human failings. It can be tested and repaired.

Do women dress for men or women? I’ve always wondered why that eternally provocative question is put in terms of approval - as if the heart of the matter, the answer, were indeed a question of approval by either sex. But the question is never satisfactorily answered because it is incorrectly posed. It’s disapproval, the fear of it, that motivates most women, and with disapproval it doesn’t matter where it comes from.

Because society would rather we always wore a pretty face, women have been trained to cut off anger.