True independence means being free from the domination of your own internal automatic behaviors, not doing what you feel like when the urge strikes.
Nicholas LoreIf you make the wrong decision, you make the wrong decision. That's all there is to it. There are few guarantees in life. One of them is that you will make lots of mistakes The worst thing you can do is wimp out and spend your life in suspended animation refusing to make a choice because it may not be a perfect one.
Nicholas LoreEveryone has options. They are a fixed set of predetermined scenarios, points of view, perceived limitations that already reside in your data bank. If you depend on your options to formulate your future, that future will be no more than a rearrangement of your past. Then he says, โPossibilities are completely different. When you ask โwhat is possible?โ you must stretch your imagination out of the confines of the familiar. To live a life beyond the mediocre, ask not โwhat are my options?โ but โWhat is possible?โ
Nicholas Lore