This is one of the reasons we need to transition: people can't validate an identity they can't see.

The scars are a way of reminding me that the past is real. They are honorable.

Boy lovers and the lesbians who have young lovers... are not child molesters. The child abusers are priests, teachers, therapists, cops and parents who force their staid morality onto the young people in their custody.

If your relationship with someone is based on your desire for them to change into something radically different, there's no real closeness there, no real communication.

SM is an art. Doing it well requires more than a bag full of expensive whips and exotic electrical toys, a closet full of fetish clothes, or a basement filled with bondage furniture.

A lot of people who are depressed, I think, are suffering from blocked creativity.

Why do I write? I write because I have to, because it is all I know, because it is my truth, because I am compelled, because I am driven to make the world acknowledge that women like me exist, and we possess a dangerous wisdom.