Clothes do not make the man; friends and engagement with life do.

Don't waste your love on stupid people. Anyone stupid enough to deny or reject it-in the midst of the Love Depression we're in-does not deserve it.

Wanting someone so much that his very presence takes your breath away is one of the most thrilling happenings in life. Not getting him in no way diminishes this.

Realize that the banality around us that passes as "hipness" or "mass culture" is as satisfying as "mass food"-only it comes in much more unappetizing portions.

The most beautiful man in the world says everything with his eyes, and the rest with his hands and mouth.

Ageism is the racism of the gay world. We really believe that age-and all of our fears that it carries-will "rub off" on us, the way that racists once believed blackness would.

Learn to detest things that do not allow you to be yourself, and embrace things that make that self larger, more thrilling, and voluptuous.