Don't walk in with a colonial mindset and say, "We know your problem and we're going to fix it."

Whatever shift is necessary is dependent on the scale on which it can be implemented, which is to say in your local community and family.

True collaborative, nurturing, and safe power is a combining of forces that can only happen on a pretty small scale.

Start from the bottom up.

Shift the dynamic as much as you can, so you hear the truth from people that have lived experience. Listen intently and honor their experience.

I've seen women essentially martyr themselves for the good of the future and the good of their children and, again, the good of love. That shouldn't be happening but it shows you the strength and power of it, and the fact that it will take over a woman's sense of her own survival. Men have taken advantage of that for hundreds and probably thousands of years.

Power over seems to be driving our very young species into a ditch because it's from an old competitive, "there may not be enough" kind of framework of scarcity. Power with is thinking abundantly as opposed to fearfully. Power with is hopefully where we're going - and where we need to go as a species in order to survive.