The most you get is what you ask for.
I think you're running into a lot of trouble if your idea of foreplay is, 'Brace yourself honey, here I come!'
You have got to decide, look, this is who I am; this is my best way to present myself, and I'm going to ride that horse to the finish line. Not everybody will like it, but that's OK.
A lot of people do have tragic childhoods. But you know what? Get over it.
You get what you ask for in this life. If you ask for nothing, you get nothing.
If you marry for money you will earn every penny.