More than what we say or do, the way we are expresses what we think it means to be alive. So the articulate parent is less a telling than a listening individual.
Polly Berrien BerendsSuddenly we have a baby who poops and cries, and we are trying to calm, clean up, and pin things together all at once. Then as fast as we learn to cope--so soon--it is hard to recall why diapers ever seemed so important. The frontiers change, and now perhaps we have a teenager we can't reach.
Polly Berrien BerendsEspecially with our first child, we tend to take too much responsibility--both credit and blame--for everything. The more we wantto be good parents, the more we tend to see ourselves as making or breaking our children.
Polly Berrien BerendsMy list of things I never pictured myself saying when I pictured myself as a parent has grown over the years.
Polly Berrien BerendsWe can see that the baby is as much an instrument of nourishment to us, as we are for him.
Polly Berrien BerendsAs parents it is well to be aware of the tendency to equate energetic activity with contest. Our children's worth does not dependon their ability to trounce one another. And surely we can find ways of frolicking and being healthy and active together in some joyful, free way that is not an adversary relationship.
Polly Berrien Berends