I married him for a green card. We had a really great, caring relationship; it just obviously wasn't right for me.

In high school I had sex with girls quite a few times. They were straight women who I convinced to jump in the sack with me.

You live with the fear people might find out. Then you actually have the courage to tell people and they go, I don't think you are gay. It's enough to drive you crazy.

My feelings for Ellen overrode all of my fear about being out as a lesbian. I had to be with her, and I just figured I'd deal with the other stuff later.

I was trying to find a reason for having had to escape from the place that was my home. To convince myself of my choices, I had to make it a place that everyone should want to escape from.

I knew that I was gay, I knew it. I just couldn't see myself as a gay woman, even though that's where my heart was.

I justified it in so many ways. I had a very, very long and difficult struggle with my sexuality.