The secret of living well is not in having all the answers but in pursuing unanswerable questions in good company.

We are all healers of each other. Look at David Spiegel's fascinating study of putting people together in a support group and seeking that some people in it live twice as long as other people who are not in a support group. I asked David what went on in those groups and he said that people just cared about each other. Nothing big, no deep psychological stuff-people just cared about each other. The reality is that healing happens between people.

My sense is that you can never teach anybody anything, or change anybody in ways that they don't already have in mind.

Our wounds are our sources of growth.

It has been said that sometimes we need a story more than food in order to live. p 374

It is not that we have a soul, but that we are a soul.

Most people have come to prefer certain of lifes experiences and deny and reject others, unaware of the value of the hidden things that may come wrapped in plain and even ugly paper. In avoiding all pain and seeking comfort at all costs, we may be left without intimacy or compassion; in rejecting change and risk we often cheat ourselves of the quest; in denying our suffering we may never know our strength or our greatness