There are respectful, considerate things that can be done in life that will be appreciated by the recipient, and only good things can result.

I don't believe in the no-win scenario

If you can find an opening, you can probably find a way to float through it.

I know you're smart. But everyone here is smart. Smart isn't enough. The kind of people I want on my research team are those who will help everyone feel happy to be here.

Apologies are not pass/fail.

Sometimes, all you have to do is ask.

Are you a Tigger or an Eeyore?