There is nothing wrong with people that reasoning with them won't aggravate!
Bullies are masters at holding others responsible for their misbehavior. Instead of claiming "the devil made me do it", they argue "You made me do it".
Anyone who consistently makes you feel bad is not helping you get better.
If they can't repeat it, they didn't get it.
Books in your head help no one.
A closed mouth gathers no feet.