We can only choose whether we will feel and not what we will feel.

Wise people are able to give themselves gracefully to seemingly contradictory experiences, because they know that they belong to different seasons of life, all of which are necessary to the whole. Spring and winter, growth and decay, creativity and fallowness, health and sickness, power and impotence, and life and death all belong within the economy of being.

I think we're always in the process of writing and rewriting the story of our lives, forming our experiences into a narrative that makes sense. Much of that work involves demythologizing family myths and cultural myths - getting free of what we have been told about ourselves.

The best practice is to follow the advice posted on every railroad crossing: Stop. Look. Listen.

We come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.

You don't go through a deep personal transformation without some kind of dark night of the soul.

I think we're inevitably going to be depressed when we focus the major part of our energy and attention on something that doesn't give us meaning, only material things.