I don't yell back at my mother. When I'm angry or scared or upset, I don't yell. I stay quiet. I've seen how she is, how she would get with Kent and with me and with other people, life if someone at the pharmacy got in the wrong line or asked too long a question, or if someone on the bus accidentally bumped her. I've watched her my whole life, the way people react to her. It doesn't actually help you get what you want, yelling and being like that. It only makes people think bad of you.
Sara ZarrThe one thing that could never die or be buried was my loyalty to Cameron for everything heโd done for me and what weโd been through together, even if that loyalty was a ghost.
Sara ZarrIt's as if once you hit high school, you're programmed, like a robot, to be an asshole to your parents.
Sara ZarrI do have a little bit more confidence in - or at least familiarity with - my process. For example, when it feels like it's going badly or that I'm lost, I know I'll eventually find my way because I've been through it before. But writing itself is still hard.
Sara Zarr