A deadness occurs in relationships when people are no longer willing to tell each other how they really feel. When people first fall in love they're more willing to do this because they're still getting to know each other and dependency has not yet set in. As soon as it does, though, people often stop sharing their true feelings out of fear of loss.
Shakti GawainWhen you truly give up trying to be whole through others, you end up receiving what you always wanted from others.
Shakti GawainIn order to heal themselves, people must recognize, first, that they have an inner guidance deep within and, second, that they can trust it.
Shakti GawainWhen you're following your energy and doing what you want all the time, the distinction between work and play dissolves.
Shakti GawainIf you are trying to appear calm and collected on the outside when actually you are feeling upset and angry, your children may mirror this to you by becoming wild and disruptive. While you are trying to maintain control, they pick up the chaotic energy inside of you and reflect it in their behavior. If you express directly what you are feeling, without trying to cover it up, they will usually calm down. They feel comfortable with the truth, the congruity between your feelings and your words. This is true of other relationships as well.
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