The unlived life isn't worth examining.

So it is that God tugs at a pilgrim's sleeve telling him to remember that he is only human. He must be his own man, remain in exile, and belong to himself. He must pay attention to his own feelings and to the meaning of what he does, if he is to be for himself, and yet for others as well.

He may only get to keep that which he is willing to let go of.

You win some, you lose some, and your losses are never made up to you. She will simply have to do without; like it or not, she must face her losses and her helplessness to undo them.

Everything good is costly, and the development of the personality is one of the most costly of all things. It will cost you your innocence, your illusions, your certainty. (10)

You are free to do whatever you like. You need only face the consequences.

Maintaining the illusion that I am in control is futile, lonely, and in the long run more always costly than the effort is worth.