The best way to make room for both life and career is to make choices deliberately-to set limits and stick to them.

It is the ultimate luxury to combine passion and contribution. It's also a very clear path to happiness.

What about the rat race in the first place? Is it worthwhile? Or are you just buying into someone else's definition of success? Only you can decide that, and you'll have to decide it over and over and over. But if you think it's a rat race, before you drop out, take a deep breath. Maybe you picked the wrong job. Try again. And then try again.

Every job will demand some sacrifice. The key is to avoid unnecessary sacrifice.

There's no easy path through grief and trauma. Learning from the experiences of people who'd been through similar losses was helpful.

Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.

If I didn't write in my journal every couple of days, I felt like I was going to burst. Later I learned the research about how important journaling can be to recovering from trauma and grief. That was definitely true for me.