Next time you're about to call your daughter bossy, take a deep breath and say, 'My daughter has executive leadership skills.'

The most important thing - and I've said it a hundred times and I'll say it a hundred times - if you marry a man, marry the right one.

When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated, and ambitious.

What about the rat race in the first place? Is it worthwhile? Or are you just buying into someone else's definition of success? Only you can decide that, and you'll have to decide it over and over and over. But if you think it's a rat race, before you drop out, take a deep breath. Maybe you picked the wrong job. Try again. And then try again.

Women have made tons of progress. But we still have a small percentage of the top jobs in any industry, in any nation in the world. I think that's partly because from a very young age, we encourage our boys to lead and we call our girls bossy.

But the upside of painful knowledge is so much greater than the downside of blissful ignorance.

Build your skills, not your resume.