It's true the people we meet shape us. But the people we don't meet shape us also, often more because we have imagined them so vividly. There are people we yearn for but never seem to meet.
Simon Van BooyI wonder if things can happen too early or too late or if everything happens at exactly the right time. If so, how sad and beautiful.
Simon Van BooyI think living with the absence of someone we love is like living in front of a mountain from which a person - a speck in the distance, on some distance ridge - is perpetually waving.
Simon Van BooyWhen Bach died some of his children sold his scores to the butcher they had decided the paper was more useful for wrapping meat. In a small village in Germany a father brought home a limp goose wrapped in paper that was covered with strange and beautiful symbols.
Simon Van BooyIn the end I didn't know who I was crying for, but it was something my body wanted to do, as though trying to digest grief.
Simon Van BooyRelationships break down, because it's about self. But when you take the "I" out of it and you're like, how can I make them happy, that means sacrifice. I think you have to be prepared to sacrifice, and a lot of people just aren't willing to. You have to give up a piece of yourself. By doing that, you get a greater sense of who you are. When you give something up, you need to fill the space where it used to be, and you understand the landscape in yourself a bit more.
Simon Van BooyI suppose the key to a good life is to gently overlook the truth and hope that at any moment we can all be reborn.
Simon Van BooyWhen small drops began to fall and darken the world in penny-shaped circles, no one around him scurried for cover. For lonely people, rain is a chance to be touched.
Simon Van BooyPerhaps we were each allotted only a certain amount of love - enough for only an initial meeting - a serendipitous clumsiness. When it leaves to find others, the difficulty begins because we are faced with our humanness, our past, our very being.
Simon Van BooyI think music is what language once aspired to be. Music allows us to face God on our own terms because it reaches beyond life.
Simon Van BooyWhere are people going? I wonder what they hope will happen and what they are afraid of? For me it's the same thing and has to do with being loved.
Simon Van BooyIt's tempting to imagine how we could hurt someone close, because it reminds us how fiercely we love them.
Simon Van BooyChildren are the closest we have to wisdom and they become adults the moment that final drop of everything mysterious is strained from them.
Simon Van BooySucces is really nothing more than the record of failure. To be successful means you must be willing to fail more than anyone else.
Simon Van BooyI think we keep these moments of rejection and acceptance very close. I think we carry them always, like cracked shells from which a part of us once hatched.
Simon Van BooyWe touched with a softness that pushed through the skin into memory, like arms plunged into a river - we could feel the weight of each other's stones.
Simon Van BooyI think people would be happier if they admitted things more often. In a sense we are all prisoners of some memory, or fear, or disappointment - we are all defined by something we canโt change.
Simon Van BooyI want to feel it somehow happened like that because things happen for a reason. I want to believe this more than anything because if it were just an accident, then God must have died before he could finish the world.
Simon Van BooyI donโt see the point of truth anymore, it causes just as much heartbreak as lying.
Simon Van BooyIf there is such a thing as marriage, it takes place long before the ceremony; in a car on the way to the airport; or as a gray bedrooms fills with dawn, one lover watching the other; or as two strangers stand together in the rain with no bus in sight, arms weighed down with shopping bags. You don't know then. But later you realize - that was the moment.
Simon Van BooyI tried to convey to the boy how people's lives are often altered by curved lines read slowly from paper, sand, or stone.
Simon Van BooyAthens is the birthplace of modern tragedy. In the Greek tragic plays, the tableau of the characters would become a statue, like the statue of Oedipus reaching up to the Gods with blood spilling out of his eyes. I love the way the Greeks would immortalize experience. Things that all of us feel.
Simon Van BooyI want to do things for people they will never forget. Maybe thatโs the best thing I can do in life.
Simon Van BooyYou can't put a price on the rituals of love, because you never know what will happen next. I suppose fear is part of the excitement and we can't have one without the other.
Simon Van BooyMusic helps us understand where we have come from but, more importantly, what has happened to us.
Simon Van BooyTo love again, you must not discard what has happened to you, but take from it the strength you'll need to carry on.
Simon Van BooyWhen I was in my early twenties, I fell in love at least 20 times a day. You have to be with someone where you think: if the world was full of people like you, I could not be monogamous. As you get older, you get to know yourself a little more. The older you get, the more you realize what you need. And you also realize how your choice in relationships is influenced by how you grew up. Now I feel like I've explored the dynamic of how I grew up, and I'm free to find someone who's really going to be a wonderful companion.
Simon Van BooyItโs the greatest legacy you could ever leave your children or your loved ones: the history of how you felt.
Simon Van BooyIf you travel too often, you actually come face-to-face with what you're trying to escape. I feel like when I travel alone, sometimes it's like being locked in a hotel room with my own worst enemy.
Simon Van BooyEverything that we love will, at some point, be taken away from us. If I think about everyone I love eventually being taken away from me by death, or simply by getting lost from each other in the world, it makes me value them much more now. And I'm much less likely to be indifferent. For me, indifference is the end of life.
Simon Van Booy