In marriage you are neither the husband nor the wife; you are the love between two.
Sri Nisargadatta MaharajGive up the idea of being a person, that is all. You need not become what you are anyhow. There is the identity of what you are and there is the person superimposed on it. All you know is the person, the identity - which is not a person - you do not know, for you never doubted, never asked yourself the crucial question: 'Who am I?'
Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj