[D]etachment means letting go and nonattachment means simply letting be. (95)

Simply touching a difficult memory with some slight willingness to heal begins to soften the holding and tension around it. (74)

Your distance from your partner is the distance from your heart. The things that make relationships difficult are some of the most precious aspects to us.

Loss is the absence of something we were once attached to. Grief is the rope burns left behind, when that which is held is pulled beyond our grasp.

We've all been should upon enough.

Our life is composed of events and states of mind. How ewe appraise our life from our deathbed will be predicated not only on what came to us in life but how we lived with it. It will not be simply illness or health, riches or poverty, good luck or bad, which ultimately define whether we believe we have had a good life or not, but the quality of our relationship to these situations: the attitudes of our states of mind. (34)

Our suffering is caused by holding on to how things might have been, should have been, could have been.