Embedded reputations - that's one of the most daunting dynamics that can happen. You start as a secretary, or assistant, and you have that plastered on your forehead. My advice is that you have to do something - change companies, get a degree, or go to a training program. Or ask to be on a very hard assignment or project that no one else wants. You can do it, but it doesn't happen without true exertion.

When I first met Jack, I was terrified of him. I wasn't expecting a fun, laughing, enjoyable, exciting guy. I walked into his office like most people, with my knees knocking together. I was scared.

I knew I was going to be a journalist, and that was it.. full stop.

You should ask for a performance evaluation. Ask your boss, where do I stand? I need to know what I can do better and what I'm doing well.

Most people don't know where they stand. One day their boss gives them an eye roll, and it can set back their whole day. It causes enormous stress.

Ask yourself: Does the job touch my heart and feed my soul? You will never be what you were meant to be if you aren't having fun.

You've got to dig in [and learn about things you don't know] if you want to stay in the conversation.