The boundary to what we can accept is the boundary to our freedom.

The fear side can have us pull away and protect us, but it's really a withdrawal, a disassociation, a cutting off. Rather than the word detachment, I usually use the word non-attachment. That can be wholesome when we care and are completely engaged with each other but are not attached to things being a certain way.

A lot of times in spiritual communities, detachment is considered to be an expression of being spiritually evolved when often, we have want and fear around being in relationship with each other.

The way to develop the habit of savoring is to pause when something is beautiful and good and catches our attention - the sound of rain, the look of the night sky - the glow in a child's eyes, or when we witness some kindness. Pause... then totally immerse in the experience of savoring it.

Emotions are the interaction of thoughts and of sensations in the body.

Our kids go to school and they come out feeling not intelligent, not desirable, not attractive or appealing to others.

Observing desire without acting on it enlarges our freedom to choose how we live.