People have to find their rhythm. Some people have need for more contact and time together and some people need more space.
Tara BrachThe renowned seventh-century Zen master Seng-tsan taught that true freedom is being "without anxiety about imperfection.
Tara BrachIt may sound lovey-dovey, but there's research showing the positive effect of meditation on parts of the brain that control emotion.
Tara BrachAllowing another to be as they are is more what I think of as "space." The space to express yourself and know that you're going to be accepted. That's more where I go than with the actual physical logistics of how much time you have together and how much time you have apart.
Tara BrachOffer some gesture of kindness to yourself. Sometimes it's just a message, to say: "It's okay. You're going to be okay. We've been through this before." The intention is reassurance, that you are not alone and you can do this. It is the most powerful way to come out of what I call the "trance of unworthiness."
Tara Brach