My understanding is that to love, we need to be able to totally surrender to the living/dying nature of this world.
Tara BrachWith the first out breath, you are releasing worries, plans, mental tensions. With the second out breath, you are releasing physical tightness and tension. With the third out breath, you are releasing difficult emotions.
Tara BrachThe fear side can have us pull away and protect us, but it's really a withdrawal, a disassociation, a cutting off. Rather than the word detachment, I usually use the word non-attachment. That can be wholesome when we care and are completely engaged with each other but are not attached to things being a certain way.
Tara BrachSometimes the easiest way to appreciate ourselves is by looking through the eyes of someone who loves us.
Tara Brach