We are mindful of desire when we experience it with an embodied awareness, recognizing the sensations and thoughts of wanting as arising and passing phenomena. While this isn't easy, as we cultivate the clear seeing and compassion of Radical Acceptance, we discover we can open fully to this natural force, and remain free in its midst.

The spiritual path is not a solo endeavor. In fact, the very notion of a self who is trying to free her/ himself is a delusion. We are in it together and the company of spiritual friends helps us realize our interconnectedness.

But this revolutionary act of treating ourselves tenderly can begin to undo the aversive messages of a lifetime.

My understanding is that to love, we need to be able to totally surrender to the living/dying nature of this world.

Our kids go to school and they come out feeling not intelligent, not desirable, not attractive or appealing to others.

This is for anyone reading this who wants to explore it. Recognize the thought, "Afraid of loving," then gently put your hand on your heart to send a message of kindness.

When you are in touch with your body and heart, it allows you to then be in the world and act with intention and clarity and kindness.