Where desire ends up causing suffering is when it fixates.

Our kids go to school and they come out feeling not intelligent, not desirable, not attractive or appealing to others.

People have to find their rhythm. Some people have need for more contact and time together and some people need more space.

As long as we are alive, we feel fear. It is an intrinsic part of our makeup, as natural as a bitter cold winter day or the winds that rip branches off trees. If we resist it or push it aside, we miss a powerful opportunity for awakening.

By taking the time to explore charged memories in therapy we might uncover feelings that have been buried for decades.

If attachment then carries forward in a way that's not healthy, we need to let it be there without making it wrong and bring as compassionate and honest attention to it as possible. Honor that this is part of being human, but it's important to know when it's getting in the way.

Compassion can be described as letting ourselves be touched by the vulnerability and suffering that is within ourselves and all beings. The full flowering of compassion also includes action: Not only do we attune to the presence of suffering, we respond to it.