I think of depression as the mechanism that pushes down the pain of that loss. It tries to distance us from the loss but it lowers our whole energy level. I think that's a pervasive way we end up responding to loss or the anticipation of loss. Natural but not necessary.

The Buddha never intended to make desire itself the problem. When he said craving causes suffering, he was referring not to our natural inclination as living beings to have wants and needs, but to our habit of clinging to experience that must, by nature, pass away.

Pain is not wrong. Reacting to pain as wrong initiates the trance of unworthiness. The moment we believe something is wrong, our world shrinks and we lose ourselves in the effort to combat the pain.

Our kids go to school and they come out feeling not intelligent, not desirable, not attractive or appealing to others.

As we free ourselves from the suffering of 'something is wrong with me, 'we trust and express the fullness of who we are.'

People don't behave in angry ways unless they are feeling stressed and conflicted too.

There's healthy attachment, like with a mother and child. It's biologically part of our survival.