Obviously being relaxed doesn't mean that you make no effort.
Just because someone is very charismatic, it doesn't mean that they're genuinely qualified.
Until you are open, you cannot receive.
It's interesting that in those countries like Taiwan or Korea, where nuns are given equal opportunities for study and practice, they also develop great social awareness.
I think we females have a lot of work to do for each other.
The thing to do in this lifetime is to create more merit.