I find that being with other people dissipates my energy.
We are educated. We can think. We have the freedom to think.
My mother's love was really not based on attachment. Her love was genuine love. To make me happy, not how I will make her happy.
Obviously the dharma is every breath we take, every thought we think, every word we speak, if we do it with awareness and an open, caring heart.
First you have to help yourself.
Since I was a small child, I'd believed we were inherently perfect, and that we had to keep coming back again and again until we recognized our innate perfection.