One thing in the Buddhadharma is that we are not our body, we are not our gender.
I find that being with other people dissipates my energy.
Obviously being relaxed doesn't mean that you make no effort.
There are other ways of benefiting than by being a recognized tulku and sitting on a throne.
We've been human countless times and done everything you can imagine. So we've been planting all these negative seeds, and they're going to come up.
Even if one isn't a committed Buddhist, it just helps us become better human beings.