There is no one best way for parents to become the parents they want to be just as there is no one best way for a child to grow into a contented and contributing member of society.

Parents typically don't talk to each other about their goals and attitudes to parenting but this type of conversation could be very useful for helping parents become clearer about the things that are important to them.

Demonstrating faith and optimism in the child or adolescent's ability to work things out in their own time and in their own way can be very difficult but it is possible to do this while also offering assistance.

I can’t even take a stroll through a park. As soon as women see my face they start gathering up their children and running for home.

I consider parenting skills, those skills that help children: (1) develop clear and important goals; and (2) figure out flexible and persistent ways of achieving their goals.

Somewhat paradoxically, parenting programs should focus on the behavior of the parents not the behavior of the children.

Spending time with the child or adolescent in mutually enjoyable activities on a regular basis will help to build warmth and trust.