Where focus goes, energy flows. And if you don't take the time to focus on what matters, then you're living a life of someone else's design.

Expectations send unconscious signals that people respond to.

Basically, you can live your life in one of two ways. You can let your brain run you the way it has in the past. You can let it flash any picture or sound or feeling, and you can respond automatically on cue, like a Pavlovian dog resp‎onding to a bell. Or you can choose to consciously run your brain yourself. You can implant the cues you want. You can take bad experiences and sap them of their strength and power. You can represent them to yourself in a way that no longer overpowers you, a way that "cuts them down" to a size where you know you can effectively handle things.

Obstacles are merely a call to strengthen your resolve to achieve your worthwhile goals.

Connection and love: We all want it. Most people settle for connection because love's too scary.

Find a great role model, perhaps someone who struggled and only really succeeded when older. Their biography and what they've done differently from you will help you. If such a person is willing to mentor you or at least allow you to work around them, great.

If you can't you must, and if you must you can.