If you want a chicken to be a duck, and a duck to be a chicken, you will suffer.
At some point your heart will tell itself what to do.
We protect virtue so that virtue will protect us.
If you let go completely you will have complete peace.
Look at your own mind. The one who carries things thinks he's got things, but the one who looks on sees only the heaviness. Throw away things, lose them, and find lightness.
If it shouldn't happen, it wouldn't happen.