There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.

Attempts to help humans eliminate all self-ratings and views self-esteem as a self-defeating concept that encourages them to make conditional evaluations of self. Instead, it teaches people unconditional self-acceptance.

Being assertive does not mean attacking or ignoring others feelings. It means that you are willing to hold up for yourself fairly-without attacking others.

The easy way out is often just that-the 'easy' way out of the most rewarding lifestyle.

In fact most of what we call anxiety is overconcern about what someone thinks of you.

The attitude of unconditional self-acceptance is probably the most important variable in their long-term recovery.