Reality is not so much what happens to us; rather, it is how we think about those events that create the reality we experience. In a very real sense, this means that we each create the reality in which we live.
Albert EllisTo err is human; to forgive people and yourself for poor behavior is to be sensible and realistic.
Albert EllisWhen people change their irrational beliefs to undogmatic flexible preferences, they become less disturbed.
Albert EllisIt is only in your mind that you have to excel, at anything or everything. Of course, it would be very nice to excel at most things. Indeed, we recommend that you try and do your best. But realistically, you are entitled to do the bare minimum to get by. All your accomplishments are just a bonus, something to enjoy, not requirements. You don't have to do anything to prove that you are worthy of existing.
Albert Ellis