People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and that they'd much rather do other kinds of things. But most people are afraid of rejection.

I think it's unfair, but they have the right as fallible, screwed-up humans to be unfair; that's the human condition.

If human emotions largely result from thinking, then one may appreciably control one's feelings by controlling one's thoughts - or by changing the internalized sentences, or self-talk, with which one largely created the feeling in the first place.

The easy way out is often just that-the 'easy' way out of the most rewarding lifestyle.

I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them.

The attitude of unconditional self-acceptance is probably the most important variable in their long-term recovery.

Freudian therapists do a lot of listening and very little persuading, and that was one of the reasons I eventually gave up being an analyst. You had to be too passive and not speak up, and you couldn't give homework to clients. While I was still an analyst, I wrote several articles criticizing psychoanalysis, but the analysts weren't listening to my objections. So I finally quit psychoanalysis after practicing it for six years.