Those who know they're valued irrespective of their accomplishments often end up accomplishing quite a lot. It's the experience of being accepted without conditions that helps people develop a healthy confidence in themselves, a belief that it's safe to take risks and try new things.

How we feel about our kids isn't as important as how they experience those feelings and how they regard the way we treat them.

The Legacy of Behaviorism: Do this and you'll get that.

The race to win turns us all into losers.

Independence is useful, but caring attitudes and behaviors shrivel up in a culture where each person is responsible only for himself.

People will typically be more enthusiastic where they feel a sense of belonging and see themselves as part of a community than they will in a workplace in which each person is left to his own devices

If unconditional love and genuine enthusiasm are present, praise isn't necessary. If they're absent, praise won't help.