Very few things are as dangerous as a bunch of incentive-driven individuals trying to play it safe.
Alfie KohnIndependence is useful, but caring attitudes and behaviors shrivel up in a culture where each person is responsible only for himself.
Alfie KohnHow we feel about our kids isn't as important as how they experience those feelings and how they regard the way we treat them.
Alfie KohnIn some suburban schools, the curriculum is chock-full of rigorous A.P. courses and the parking lot glitters with pricey SUVs, but one doesn't have to look hard to find students who are starving themselves, cutting themselves, or medicating themselves, as well students who are taking out their frustrations on those who sit lower on the social food chain.
Alfie Kohn