You have to give them unconditional love. They need to know that even if they screw up, you love them. You don't want them to grow up and resent you or, even worse, parent the way you parented them.

Being a team player should not imply a demand for simple obedience and conformity.

Punishments erode relationships and moral growth.

Students should not only be trained to live in a democracy when they grow up; they should have the chance to live in one today.

If unconditional love and genuine enthusiasm are present, praise isn't necessary. If they're absent, praise won't help.

People will typically be more enthusiastic where they feel a sense of belonging and see themselves as part of a community than they will in a workplace in which each person is left to his own devices

Punishment and reward proceed from basically the same psychological model, one that conceives of motivation as nothing more than the manipulation of behavior.