Educational success should be measured by how strong your desire is to keep learning.
Most of us would protest that of course we love our children without any strings attached. But what counts is how things look from the perspective of the children
Learning is something students do, NOT something done to students.
To control students is to force them to accommodate to a preestablished curriculum.
When was the last time you spent the entire day with only 42 year olds?
You have to give them unconditional love. They need to know that even if they screw up, you love them. You don't want them to grow up and resent you or, even worse, parent the way you parented them.