When was the last time you spent the entire day with only 42 year olds?

How we feel about our kids isn't as important as how they experience those feelings and how they regard the way we treat them.

There are different kinds of motivation, and the kind matters more than the amount.

The race to win turns us all into losers.

Some who support [more] coercive strategies assume that children will run wild if they are not controlled. However, the children for whom this is true typically turn out to be those accustomed to being controlled— those who are not trusted, given explanations, encouraged to think for themselves, helped to develop and internalize good values, and so on. Control breeds the need for more control, which is used to justify the use of control.

It's not just that humiliating people, of any age, is a nasty and disrespectful way of treating them. It's that humiliation, like other forms of punishment, is counterproducti ve. 'Doing to' strategies - as opposed to those that might be described as 'working with' - can never achieve any result beyond temporary compliance, and it does so at a disturbing cost.

Maximum difficulty isn't the same as optimal difficulty.