Learning is something students do, NOT something done to students.
To feel controlled is to lose interest.
To be well-educated is to have the desire as well as the means to make sure that learning never ends.
When we do things that are controlling, whether intentional or not, we are not going to get those long-term outcomes.
Being a team player should not imply a demand for simple obedience and conformity.
If unconditional love and genuine enthusiasm are present, praise isn't necessary. If they're absent, praise won't help.