Sometimes we have to put our foot down, ... but before we deliberately make children unhappy in order to get them to get into the car, or to do their homework or whatever, we need to weigh whether what we're doing to make it happen is worth the possible strain on our relationship with them.
Alfie KohnAssessments should compare the performance of students to a set of expectations, never to the performance of other students.
Alfie KohnTo be well-educated is to have the desire as well as the means to make sure that learning never ends.
Alfie KohnWhen we do things that are controlling, whether intentional or not, we are not going to get those long-term outcomes.
Alfie Kohn