Stress is never a given. There are people who get divorced amicably. There are people who pack up and move with no emotional toll. There is no stressor 'out there' in the world. We experience stress - or we don't - depending on what we believe.

Remember that stress doesn't come from what's going on in your life. It comes from your thoughts about what's going on in your life.

You might think that shifting your thoughts is as easy as setting your mind to it. But stressful thoughts aren't held in place through choice or will power. They're held in place through perceived truth value.

The more you worry, the more you throw off the delicate balance of hormones required for health.

If you're successful and stressed out, you're succeeding in spite of your stress, not because of it.

Find the beliefs that are strangling your feelings, challenge them for your sake as well as theirs, and see how it feels to love someone without a thought about the future, simply for who they are today.

Negative thoughts stick around because we believe them, not because we want them or choose them.