You can choose courage or you can choose comfort, but you can't have both.

The credit belongs to those of us who are actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood. We strive valiantly and sometimes there's the triumph of achievement but at the worst, we fail, but at least we fail while daring greatly." That has really changed my life. Profoundly changed my life.

Numb the dark and you numb the light.

I now see how gifts like courage, compassion, and connection only work when they are exercised. Every day.

Guilt: I'm sorry. I made a mistake. Shame: I'm sorry. I am a mistake.

If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.

Worrying about scarcity is our culture's version of post-traumatic stress. It happens when we've been through too much, and rather than coming together to heal (which requires vulnerability) we're angry and scared and at each other's throats.