At the end of my life I want to be able to say I contributed more than I criticized.

We can only belong when we offer our most authentic selves and when we're embraced for who we are.

One of the most painfully inauthentic ways we show up in our lives sometimes is saying "yes" when we mean "no," and saying "no" when we mean "hell yes."

Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen. It's tough to do that when we're terrified about what people might see or think.

We cannot ignore our pain and feel compassion for it at the same time.

'Crazy-busy' is a great armor, it's a great way for numbing. What a lot of us do is that we stay so busy, and so out in front of our life, that the truth of how we're feeling and what we really need can't catch up with us.

If you're also in the arena and you're putting your ideas out and you're owning them and you're saying "I disagree with you about this and that, I think you've got this wrong" - then not only do I invite that, I freaking love that. I love that. I'm an academic. I'm hardwired for a good debate.