Rather than understand the original cause-a thought-we try to change the stressful feelings by looking outside ourselves.
Byron KatieIf I think the environment in the world needs to be cleaned up, let me clean up my own environment. Let me clean up the environment in my head - let me work with that pollution and that ecosystem.
Byron KatieIf your happiness depends on your children being happy, that makes them your hostages. So stay out of their business, stop using them for your happiness, and be your own happiness. And that way you are the teacher for your children: someone who knows how to live a happy life.
Byron Katie