If our stressful thoughts aren't true, what does that leave? It leaves, "I am loveable" - the very thing I could never make myself believe, because "I'm unloveable" overrides it when the chips are down.
Byron KatieWhen youโre focused outside and believe that your problem is caused by someone else, rather than by your attachment to the story youโre believing in the moment, then you are your own victim, and the situation appears to be hopeless.
Byron KatiePlacing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience; taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them
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