When you say or do anything to please, get, keep, influence, or control anyone or anything, fear is the cause and pain is the result.
If you're yelling within you that they shouldn't yell at you, that is where the pain begins, not with their yelling at you.
The last story: God is everything, God is good.
I live in a state of grace, where I don't have to know.
When you act like a teacher, it's usually because you're afraid to be the student.
Forgiveness is just another name for freedom.